Friday, May 11, 2007

Eventually....

....things will again calm down and we will return to our regularly scheduled blogging.....

Until then, the Lord is Sovereign and it is He that reigns, not chaos!

I just needed to remind myself.

My meeting with the lawyer went well, he is a good friend of Mr. Pears from when they were BSF leaders together, so that makes it easier. My stomach was in such knots that Mr. and Miss Pear accompanied me. That helped.

I signed the final paperwork, so now the lawyer in Canada has to send a check down, my lawyer has to make the final payments, and then I get a very small check at the end. (He thinks we can likely have things wrapped up before we move.)

I have to confess, I am hoping the check is enough for the fancy dancy All Clad slow cooker that has caught my eye because my second one is on its very last legs, and I am tired of cooking and prepping in one set of pans and then using my slow cooker (and praying that the two hot spots would not burn and wreck what I am making), I would like to dirty just my slow cooker. It may appear a frivolous item, but with the heat of southern California I use my slow cooker all year round, particularly in the hottest months so that I don't heat up the kitchen! And, I confess, I would take great pleasure out of this item that is not the least bit frugal. My slow cooker has to be a work horse! Already two gave up on me! I also hope to be able to get some knew cookie sheets and a jelly roll pan (mine are very used and abused! Or is the phrase well loved???)

On to house news. We don't really have any...

One home owner of a very sweet little house made us an excellent counter offer, but it was higher than we could afford, so we counter offered him, basically splitting the difference, and Mr. Pear just got back from faxing it back. So we will see. He is eager to sell and move, and we are eager to buy and move, so it should be a good match!

It is such a sweet house! It has a great kitchen, a back yard that is much bigger than we have now, but if you are not from around these parts you would call it small, here we call it a nice size. It has three bedrooms all upstairs and all a good size. And it has a view of a beautiful canyon outside the kitchen window - and it has a kitchen that is made to be worked in! And it is close to where Mr. Pear works and is in a good neighborhood! And we are at the edge of the cul-de-sac, so there is no homes across the road from the house, and that side can never be built on! Guaranteed canyon views! Nothing has been agreed to, so I am trying not to get excited, but oh! it is hard!

The other house we were interested in is stalling for time, and is not really getting back to us. We are also thinking that it needs way too much work for us to handle right now (even if we could get it cheep enough to be able to afford all the work).

In other news, the first house that we made an offer on, the one where one of the two agents was very rude to both our agents, came back to us to see if we could put some kind of a deal together. The agent did this on his own, and we did not exactly jump up and cheer. The kitchen is not as nice, and the bedrooms are a lot smaller.

So that is all the news around here.

It is nap time, and I think that sounds pretty good!

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Pins and needles

So I am sitting here on pins and needles waiting for the phone to ring about the offers we made on houses. They have until this evening at 7 to get back to us.

And then the phone rang, and naturally I jumped and ran!

It was not about the house, I have to go the lawyers office tomorrow to sign the paperwork on my dad's estate. This is very emotional for me because my dad and I had a very acrimonious relationship. He made it clear I was never going to be good enough (unless I was a size 0, a genius with numerous doctorate degrees, and an Olympic athlete all at once), and that he expected me to have no relationship at all with my second father who is very good to me. No matter how hard I worked at something, unless it was perfection, it was never good enough.

So because this week was not already emotionally charged enough, let's through this in too!

But at least it will soon be over.....

Wednesday, May 9, 2007

Catch Up Day

We are having a catch up day today. It is 10AM, and :
  • the third load of laundry is almost in the washer (my machine has to learn to wash faster!),
  • three loaves of banana loaf are in the oven,
  • supper is in the slow cooker
  • we have cleaned the kitchen (still need to sweep though)
  • our bed has been stripped,
  • all the toilets have clearner in them and are soaking,
  • all the bathroom sinks have bleach in them and are soaking,
  • we watered all our plants out front
  • we moved two basil plants
  • we planted another tomato seed
  • we talked to our real estate agent for our new home after...
  • ...faxing him back the offers we want to make,
  • followed up with our agent here about the copy of the contract we need to get Mr. Pear's company to release our check for help
  • followed up with my lawyer about closing my father's estate ASAP seeing as we are moving the need is now more urgent as it will be hard to get back and sign paperwork.
Gee, wonder why I feel like I could use a break?????

We looked at four homes yesterday, and are making more than one offer. Please pray that the God would provide a home for us in time, the people we sold our home to close escrow here June 11, and we have to be out by June 13! I am trying not to be anxious and panic, but in everything, with prayer and thanksgiving, make my request known to God.

I will blog more about yesterday's house hunting when our house does not look like a disaster - hopefully later today.

Oh, the people we made offers to have until tomorrow evening to get back to us.....

Monday, May 7, 2007

House Hunting Take 2

So they turned down our offer.

The people who currently own the home we made an offer on negotiated down $3000 and will negotiate no further, they are firm.

Okay then, moving on.

Our agent knows we need to find a house FAST, so he is looking to see if there are houses in our range to look at, if not we are going to town homes. We could be up there as early as tomorrow (Tuesday) looking again.

The plan will be that Miss Pear and I drive up with Mr. Pear when he leaves for work, I look with Miss Pear all morning, we pick up Mr. Pear for lunch, look at the houses, and drive home while Miss Pear sleeps.

Yup, the thought of it makes my head spin too.

Please pray that we would find a home in time. Moving twice would be extremely hard on Miss Pear, we would like to only move straight to our new home, not to temporary housing and then to our home.

Laughed at part 2

So we decided to make one more offer on the house.

We offered our max because the house was worth certain sacrifices, and after all, Mr. Pear's company loves him, and is already planning his career path, so we think he will likely get some raises each year which would lessen the sacrifices. :-)

By sacrifices I mean minor things that we can easily do without for the blessings of a house, not cash strapped!

So we offered our max, made it clear that this was it, if they said "No" we moved on, no negotiations, not even for $500.

The agent is presenting the offer to their clients at 6PM, just over 4 hours from how.

If they say no, we are house hunting again.

If they say yes, you will hear the cheers from here.

We will see. I am not optimistic regarding the seller and their agent, but I am trusting the Lord that if this is the house He has for us He will make it happen.

I think I like this!

You might have already drawn this conclusion yourself, but I think I like this blogging business! I like my little corner of bloggityville, everyone is nice here, and I can think out loud.

However, I have to admit, I would like my blog to look a little nicer, to reflect me better than the premade ones available! So this:

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caught my attention!

Everyday Mommy is giving away a design for Mother's Day!

How sweet is that!

Survey says....

this will be at the top for a week, scroll down for new posts please!

I am writing an article specifically geared to women who work full time but wish to be home with their families full time instead. My goal in the article is to validate this decision, encourage readers to work towards this goal, and provide advice and suggestions on how to accomplish this.

I would appreciate your help! I have a simple 5 question survey open to stay at home wives and moms, and women who wish to be here:

Click here to take our Online Survey


One thing that is not in the survey, and maybe it should be, but feel free to answer in the comments section: What is the one thing you would say to a woman who really wants to come home full time, but is convinced that she cannot?

If the survey is full, and you would still like to participate, please answer the questions in the comment section of this post. The questions are:

1) Which currently describes you the best:

A) I am a stay at home wife and/or mother, and always have been.
B) I am a stay at home wife and/or mother who once worked outside the home while married.
C)I am a wife and/or mother who works outside the home, but wish to be home full time

2) When I returned home full time after working outside the home my biggest fears were:

A)No longer being able to eat out as much as I would like
B)No longer being able to buy the household items I would like
C)Having to cook more meals
D)Having to do my own cleaning and gardening
E)Finances in general
F) Other (Please Specify):

3) The biggest challenge in transition home turned out to be:

A) Managing a household budget
B) Cooking for my family
C) Cleaning for my family
D) Filling my days
E) Loneliness
F) Other (Please Specify):


4) When I decided to return home from the work world, I wish someone would have told me:


5) When I decided to return home, the best advice I received was:



This article is just in it's planning stage, but if I manage to get it published, I will let you know!


Updated to Keep this at the top for a while and to add note:
If you would like to mention this post on your blog and send women my way, I would really appreciate it, and it would really help my research!

(Originally Posted 5/7)

Saturday, May 5, 2007

Laughed at us

So we heard back on the very reasonable offer we made on the house we thought was the one for us. One agent said it was a reasonable offer, and the other agent of the double list was rude to our agent up there and down here, and scoffed at us and our offer, and the counter offer basically came down $3000.

Which means they did not take us or our offer seriously at all.

And it is clear she told the client what she thought rather than facilitating the offers, so we are likely not going to get anywhere with her in the drivers seat and not the clients.

So I guess now we have to decide if it is worth making a counter offer at the top of our range that they will likely scoff at as well, or just move to plan B house, which we don't like as much, but at least it is a house.

Friday, May 4, 2007

God's provisions for our home

On Monday I said that I would tell you how God provided for us in miraculous ways in the selling of our town home, and I thought that I should probably get around to telling you before everyone forgot! (Okay, before I forgot!)

WAY back in September when we listed our place we could afford a small town home in the area we were looking at. This time we looked only at homes.

We have accepted an offer to sell our town home for about $6000 more than a similar town home that sold almost a month ago, and about $36,000 more than one in our complex that needed a lot of work.

We did end up selling for $15,000 less than your drop dead number, but Mr. Pear's company came in with that exact amount of help!

The physical inspection on our town home revealed three things, two will cost less that $5 total to fix, and one is the HOA's responsibility. God blessed us!

We made an offer on a house yesterday, a beautiful house that is nicer than we thought we could afford. We have not hear back yet, but we were actually able to make a reasonable offer on a beautiful house, and I have to confess, I am praying that they would accept our offer. They are moving out of state, and we can move as fast as they need us too. I love this house, it is perfect for us.

We have a reasonable plan B house, but I really want plan A! But more than that, I want God's best for us.

Since we had to go up for a second day, God blessed me with a pocket of time for a peaceful extended quite time at Starbucks. While I would have laughed at an hour and a half at Starbucks as a peaceful and extended quiet time before I was a mom, now I thought that was the best gift ever!

I said it would take a series of miracles for us to move to the area of Southern California that we are trying to move to out of obedience to God, and the miracles are arriving.

Overwhelmed with joy

I recently discovered Overwhelmed with Joy and have been very tempted to play along with the favorite ingredient Friday because I love to bake and cook and generally play in the kitchen.

Overwhelmed is having a book giveaway for "Unbroken" which is a memoir. And she is giving away two copies! Of course, I love books, and biographies and memoirs is a genre that I enjoy a lot!

Head over to here to enter to win!

Thursday, May 3, 2007

Sweet Dreams

For a while now I have been going through a spiritual dry period. What St. John of the Cross calls the long dark night of the soul.

In University I read Douglas Adams - we call it the Long Dark Teatime of the Soul.

It has been hard and long, but I keep seeking and spending time in the Word and prayer.

Then last night I had the most amazing dream. First, it is amazing because I actually remembered it. But that is not the point.

I dreamed that an angel came to see me, and I was not the least bit shocked or surprised to see him, I just smiled and said, "Oh! There you are!" with such delight, like meeting and old friend.

That is all I remember, and it felt like such incredible encouragement to me!

Book Review: Feminine Appeal

We have been on a good reading run - each book I have picked up to read has been excellent, but even among that great selection of books

Feminine Appeal, Expanded Edition Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother

stood out as an exceptional read.

I was not raised in a strong Christian family, a Christian family yes, but not one that taught me how to be a godly wife to a godly man (even though my mom was an excellent example). And to be honest, I was not really paying that much attention, so Mom could have tried to teach me all this and I just missed it.

However, I have longed for a godly older woman to talk to, to ask these questions of, and have not found that, but this book filled an excellent gap for me, and answered questions I did not even know I have.

It has caused me to look at my marriage, my little sweet family, and my role as wife, mother, and homemaker completely differently. It confirmed in my heart that this is indeed what the Lord is calling me to, what He has gifted me for, and that has given me a peace at a time when our lives are in some tumult.

I would like to select one chapter and tell you that it is THE chapter in the book for me, but I cannot, because the all spoke to me in volumes, the chapters are:
  1. Transformed by Titus 2
  2. The Delight of Loving My Husband
  3. The Blessing of Loving my Children
  4. The Safety of Self-Control
  5. The Pleasure of Purity
  6. The Honor of Working at Home
  7. The Reward of Kindness
  8. The Beauty of Submission
  9. Margaret's Story.
Each chapter had a very special lesson for me. And the list provides an excellent summary of the book, but it is so much more.

This is definitely a book I am planning on reading again very soon.

5 Pears - a book that made me think I needed a higher rating system!

5 Pears - Fabulous! Too good for words! What do you mean you haven't read this one yet! Go, immediately, and get a copy! This book must be in your library! I would lend you mind, but I cannot part with it! Besides, I think I will start rereading it tonight!

4 Pears - Excellent - I loved this book, definitely worth picking up or borrowing from a friend or getting from a library - a must read!

3 Pears - Good - I liked it, it would be a good book to get from your library or to borrow from a friend, probably not one to invest precious book money in though.

2 Pears - Not bad - it would be okay if I were stranded in an airport or on a deserted island and this was all I could find to read.

1 Pear - Awful! Do not waste your time or money on this one! How did this get published?

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

Did my check get lost????

According to a study released today, we stay at home moms are very valuable!

We are worth $138,095 annually - up 3% from last year - clearly we got a strong performance review as that is higher than average in the work world nowadays.

So here is my question - did your check arrive? Mine hasn't yet! Mr. Pear would like to know how much a stay at home dad makes because if we got checks for both than we could both be stay at home parents! How fun!

House Hunting

We live in a very expensive area of the country, one of the most expensive actually, but within that microcosm of expensive homes, we are moving from one expensive area to another that is even more expensive.

With the housing market being what it is, we are trying to get into a house, ironically, after we would pay all the taxes and fees on a town home, we would be spending only about $100 more on a house, if that. So we are really trying to get into a house. But they are outrageously expensive, even the...ummm...icky ones! Yeah, let's call them icky. We looked at one that was $25K less than the most expensive one we liked, and $5k less than the less expensive one we liked, and I have to tell you, I would be afraid to stay home alone in that one! We would be going with Mr. Pear to work each day!

But the homes are expensive, we are hoping to be able to negotiate them down into our range, and are praying for a miracle in this area from the Lord! It is the only way it is going to happen. I have to be honest, I am hoping and praying to negotiate the more expensive one down because it is clearly owned by Christians while the less expensive one had native art and religious artifacts (native, not Christian) on the walls.

We looked at 19 homes yesterday between 9AM and 3PM. It was exhausting. We saw some really lovely ones, and some that I really have to wonder why we got out of the car. But our agent was not able to preview ahead of us to weed stuff out because, frankly, we did not give him the time.

So I am going with Mr. Pear to work tomorrow, he is going to drop me off at a coffee house for an hour and a half for a nice long devotional time, then we are going to meet and look at the two homes again, check out the neighborhoods more closely, and the homes more closely too, and make an offer. Then I am going back to continue my devotional time while Mr. Pear finishes his morning at work. Then we are grabbing a quick lunch and heading home where he will telecommute for his afternoon. Kind of a crazy thing, but it means he does not have to use a vacation day.

So far today, we have had our home appraised, the pest guys here, UPS deliver a christening gift for our friends baby who is being christened on Sunday, and are getting ready for our home's physical inspection tonight. I kind of feel like I am slowly losing it today.....

WFMW - Birthday Box

WfmwheaderEach year on Miss Pear's birthday we have a birthday gift she does not get, yet. It goes into her birthday box.

Let me explain.

Like many women, when I moved out I had most of the essentials, but not a lot of the extras I really wanted that help make the house pretty, and the job easier. It was a couple years before I could save up for the "good stuff" I was accustomed to from working in my Mom's kitchen with her.

So we decided to help Miss Pear out.

Each birthday we put something in her birthday box that is for her home one day, something nice that reflects her year.

For her first birthday I sewed her 4 reversible French Provincial style place mats in green, one side sported pears. (Her grandma's are also free to add something. One embroidered her 7 flour sack tea towels, and one has something that has not been delivered yet as it did not fit in the suit case the last two times she came and there is no rush).

For her second birthday I am sewing 8 napkins - 4 each of the two fabric patterns from last year, and we have purchased metal measuring cups and spoons as Miss Pear loves to help me cook and bake, and will help me all day if I just give her measuring cups and spoons.

We will do this for each child the Lord blesses us with.

The plan is, when she moves out to a home of her own to bless her with this box of goodies, and the list that tracks what each year's gift was and why.

Oh, and don't tell Miss Pear, it is a secret! shhhhhh!

The birthday box and a secret! Works for me!
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